Asking for Help

Abuse doesn’t just happen in intimate relationships, it can happen between friends or whānau too. You have the same right to be happy and safe in these relationships. The organisations listed in this booklet are here to listen and help.

Sometimes, we’re just a little unsure what is or isn’t acceptable behaviour in a relationship. Talking with a friend or whānau member you trust can help figure it out.

Relationships don’t only happen behind closed doors, and it is OK to talk about and share details of your relationship with someone you trust.

Asking a support organisation or someone you trust for help is the first step towards building a healthier relationship. You don’t need to leave a relationship that can be abusive to ask for help, or even want to leave.

There are many community organisations who provide free confidential services that you can talk to and get information from. They are happy to help if you just want to chat, or if you need specific advice on how to protect yourself from abuse.

Sometimes the first person we tell about an abusive situation may not be able to help. Remember that you deserve to be supported, keep asking people you trust and organisations that can help until you receive the help and support you need.

If someone you are in a relationship with doesn’t want to you talk about your relationship, or stops you talking about your relationship with others, they are being abusive.

In an Emergency

If you believe you are in immediate physical danger, dial 111 and ask for the Police.