Asking for help when you think you may be abusing someone can be a difficult, but getting help can reduce or stop your abusive behaviour.
Change can only happen if you want to change, and can accept that your behaviours in the past were abusive, and not OK.
When you stop being abusive you may be able to work towards repairing your relationship, or learn what’s OK and not OK for new relationships.
Part of getting help will be to try to understand what causes abusive behaviour, and learning how to manage your feelings without becoming abusive.
Healthy relationships are about trusting, respecting, loving and celebrating each other. Control, fear and power are not part of a healthy relationship.
If you are concerned about your behaviour, talk to someone you trust, or one of the many community organisations that are waiting to help.