Everyone is entitled to experience happy, healthy relationships, and perhaps the most important relationship we have is with ourselves.
Having a good relationship with ourselves is the first step to being able to have healthy relationships with other people.
When we think positive things like “I’m happy with who I am”, “I look good today” or “I achieved my goal”, we’re able to negotiate better relationships with other people, and value the contribution those people make in our lives.
When negative thoughts like “I’m too fat”, “who would want me?”, or “I always screw things up” cloud our minds, we can make bad relationship choices, or let other people make poor choices for us.
- Take time to think about what you’re good at.
- Learn about what you love and what makes you feel happy.
- Distract yourself if you are having negative thoughts.
- Make time for yourself and the things you enjoy doing, such as dancing, reading, exercise or meditation.
- Talk to people you trust about your emotions, thoughts, feelings and dreams. These people could be friends, whānau, or a professional such as a counsellor.
- Being able to spend time happily by yourself is a strength, not a weakness!